Rita and Ludwig come from different Soviet backgrounds, but their Russian heritage pulled them together. Despite them coming from different religions too, they were able to honor their families and culture with a civil wedding, followed by a classic Russian Jewish reception.
Rita not only had that classic Tiffany blue shoes and wedding bouquet, she also did all the decorations herself! One talented bride!
She shares her wedding story with us.
The last thing we wanted to do is offend anyone. We choose to do a civil ceremony with Justice of Peace. Neither one of the religions were mentioned and we read our own vows.
It was very important to me to incorporate Jewish religion and traditions during the reception, therefore we started our dancing program with traditional hora dancing, we had songs ranging from Hava Nagila to Oseh Shalom. All guests Jewish or not enjoyed the energy this songs produced, most of our guests danced in a circle around us.
Both of us immigrated with our families in our teenage years. I immigrated from Ukraine and my husband from Uzbekestan, yet we consider ourselves Russian, since that is the language we speak, and we were born in USSR. It took some effort but we finally found an amazing band from New York who sang Russian and American songs equally well, as well as traditional Jewish songs.
What was the inspiration for your wedding?
My inspiration was truly to make everyone happy – I believe I succeeded, no one sneezed once or had allergic reaction to our paper centerpieces! Guests loved them and took some home.
What was the hardest part about wedding planning?
Hardest part had to be making the centerpieces and making sure everyone is happy. It was very important for me to make sure both my mom and my mother-in-law were truly happy, finding compromises with what we wanted and what they had envisioned our wedding was not easy, but at the end I truly think we did it.
Being very old fashioned both of our mothers really wanted me to have a traditional long dress, I really wanted to just be comfortable and dance. We compromised on me wearing a long dress for the first part of the wedding and changing in to a short ( still very wedding) dress for the bouquet throw and dancing.
I had to fight everyone from our mothers to my own bridesmaids on my shoes, I really wanted tiffany colored shoes, representing something blue for the wedding and everyone was convinced I had to be wearing white – I won! I absolutely adored my shoes!
Did you do any DIY (do it yourself) or special projects/things at the wedding?
Both my husband and my mother-in-law are very sensitive and allergic to flowers and plants. I spend weeks speaking with florist, till I realized there are simply no flower we can use without risking setting one of them off.
I finally decided to do all of my own decorations. I been making and selling paper flower walls for quiet some time prior to our wedding, so I knew that was going to be part of my wedding, however for the wedding I also created paper centerpieces and my own silk bouquet for me and bridesmaids.
These items are now part of the wedding inspired centerpieces and decoration I sell at Rituska Inc.
What was your favorite part of the wedding?
My favorite part of the wedding would have to be the dancing, our band was so amazing and we truly had an amazing time dancing the night away with our family and friends.
What advice do you have for future brides and grooms-to be?
Plan in advance.
The last few weeks prior to the wedding are exhausting and crazy all around, you want to have everything lined up before that.
Plus, hire great vendors!
Make sure that not only their product but their personalities are a good match to yours. You don’t want to be dealing with grouchy people when you are stressed, you want high energy and great attitudes.